Creating shared goals early on can help the longevity of a relationship by ensuring that both you and your partner are on the same page about important life decisions like having kids, living near your extended family, owning pets, etc. While individuality is important, you need to walk the thin line of expressing yourself and your opinions without overshadowing the expression or needs of your partner.
Sometimes this means not always getting your way, and that can be a hard pill to swallow, but in the end it is important for relationships to have give and take. Compromise is one of the 5 Cs of a relationship, along with commitment, caring, companionship and communication.
Get more insight into your relationship with a free trial of Relish - download now. Just like everyone has their own astrology signs and personality types writing as a Libra, ESFJ , everyone has a communication style that influences how you interact with people and how you handle conflict.
These skills will not only improve communication in your relationship, but will also benefit work-place communication and communication with friends and family.
While everyone has a preferred style of communication, it is also important to recognize that in some situations you just need to tell your partner exactly what you mean. You can drop as many hints as you want, but sometimes s-p-e-l-l-i-n-g things out is absolutely necessary. Articulating your needs creates authentic dialogue that will help your partner support you.
Embracing tell culture also means listening to your partner when they tell you what they need. Learning how to be a good listener is a huge asset to any long-term relationship. Now, when my partner comes to me with a problem I ask if they are seeking advice, a sounding board, or if they just need to get something off of their chest.
By doing this, I can establish what my role should be in the conversation. For those of us that are conflict averse hi, yes, that would be me , it can be helpful to schedule relationship check-ins. Check-ins are helpful, because they create a safe-space for open communication. Proactive communication can allow you to address certain negative feelings before the feelings fester and cause a conflict. To some people, healthy conflict might seem a bit like an oxymoron.
Afterall, we often think of conflicts as huge fights or blowouts. But, addressing small disagreements in their early stages can actually prevent huge blowouts from manifesting.
Conflicts are destined to happen in any relationship whether it be romantic, platonic or familial, so learning to embrace conflicts and learn from the disagreements is an important life skill. A Relish relationship coach can help you navigate these conversations and prevent future arguments. Try free for 7-days. No one wants to be nit-picked about every little thing, so if you feel yourself picking a fight over something petty, take a step back and reflect on your mood, the situation, and the actual cause of your annoyance or negative feelings.
Being overly critical or picking fights about every little thing does not create a safe space for your partner to be human and make mistakes that go along with that. Picking your battles will also help you reflect on what are make-or-break things for your relationship, and communication these things clearly will lead to mutual growth.
Some conflicts are absolutely necessary, but in order for a relationship to recover from a conflict, both people need to embrace and perfect the art of forgiveness. Not all conflicts will end in a peaceful resolution, but even if they do, it is important to learn how to move on from disagreements in a meaningful way. Healthy, long-term relationships thrive when you can love your partner despite differences and disagreements.
Respect is a KEY aspect in any kind of long-term relationship. You must respect your partner as an individual, as a decision maker, and as an equal in your relationship.
It is also very important to respect yourself in a relationship. Reciprocal respect will pave the way for all other aspects of a healthy, long-term relationship like good communication and compromise. A huge, and very common, fear in any relationship is staleness. When the honeymoon phase eventually wears off and you feel stuck in a rut.
Most long-term relationships experience periods of closeness and periods of distance, and with these periods may inevitably come a time when you and your partner feel stuck in your normal habits and routine. To avoid these periods, or to help yourself break out of them if you do find yourself in this situation, try something new with your partner! Take a virtual cooking lesson, learn a new language or find new music to listen to together. For more ways to keep a relationship fresh, get started with the 1 relationship coaching app for free.
Learning is a huge part of any form of growth. As individuals, we learn as we age and become more mature. As individuals we should all seek out new ways to learn as we age, especially when feeling stuck in a rut or dissatisfied. Learning a new skill or new knowledge is a rewarding experience that can distract from stressful or unsatisfying work or living situations. In addition to being an important skill for individuals, it is good to encourage your partner to learn new skills, or to even suggest learning something new together.
Finding ways to grow as individuals, together, will create a long-lasting bond. Plus, we have fun together. We play games and just enjoy each others company. Perhaps the biggest way we've been able to make it work is through communication of feelings and expectations. We try to communicate openly and early on when something is bothering us, and we use 'I' statements, such as 'I feel irritated when you don't help me with the dishes,' to express our feelings without aggressively blaming the other person.
That way, we have a relatively clear picture of what's to come, we won't cross boundaries, and we're not blindsided. No personal insults or any kind of personal attacks— it's kind of a rule. People remember the insults others say to them, even when the disagreement ends, and that tends to cause resentment and pain. We avoid that, because it never leads anywhere good. There are many other responsibilities, such as kids and careers, but our relationship must come above everything else.
To this day, we still have date night even though we are empty nesters. We still make time each day to talk and emotionally connect. Give them the freedom to move freely while still making clear what you expect out of the relationship … Find your special balance between the two of you and stop looking at other people's relationship as a guide. What works for some doesn't work for all.
It has required a great deal of time, effort, serious thought, painful examination, and honest evaluation. It has all been worth it and our efforts have been richly rewarded with the relationship with now have.
We make it work by having our next trip planned before the previous one ends so we always have something to look forward to. If we don't do this, we run the risk of letting our jobs and other engagements floods our calendars and take priority over seeing each other. Also, we do a lot of movie nights and little date nights via Skype. It's really easy to bail when things get tough, but what you do during those tough times can really determine the course of a relationship.
I think choosing to grow together is always going to be harder than just bailing, but it's absolutely worth it. We give each other room to explore and grow.
Even the truest of friends and most compatible partners argue. To keep your disagreements from damaging your relationship, set up some respectful ground rules during a calm moment. These might include no name-calling or criticizing, making sure each person gets to have a say, really listening to each other and taking a break from the discussion if it gets too heated, as long as you promise to revisit the issues within a day or two.
If you and your partner keep having the same arguments with no progress in sight, seek help from a therapist or marriage counselor.
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